Today I had my rock star English students respond to lines in the poem “The Love Song of J. Alfred Prufrock. Here is MY response. Student responses follow as comments. Enjoy!
For I have known them all already, known them all;
Have known the evenings, mornings, afternoons,
I have measured out my life with coffee spoons;
I know the voices dying with a dying fall
Beneath the music from a farther room.
So how should I presume?
Poor J Alfred Prufrock.
When I teach this poem to my high school English classes, students find it difficult to identify with the balding, socially inept Prufrock and consider him to be pathetic at most. What they can identify with, however, is the idea of symbolically measuring the “worth” of one’s life with a repetitive action or routine. Actions or routines that help define who we are.
A validation, or proof of sorts, that we exist.
J. Alfred’s measurement is the endless afternoons he spends alone contemplating his inadequacies over endless cups of tepid sludgy tea.
Sad, but there it is.
I’ve had students state they’re measuring their life with dance recitals performed, or hockey games played. Proof that some thing had been accomplished. My graduates have been measuring their lives by papers or midterms written (Facebook statuses read “only 2 more to go until summer break! Only 1 more to go!). Proof that learning has occurred (… or in some cases, maybe not!)
I believe our “units” of measurement vary depending on what time in life we happen to be treading. I took the year off work some years ago and I kept track of all the wonderful books I read during that time. THAT’s how I measured my life during my hiatus.
And it felt good
and worth my while.
Proof that I finished a story, a different story every time a new book opened. Stories that contributed to my own.
Is life measured in paychecks earned? Children birthed? Hearts broken? Or do you find a more symbolic value in the little actions that fill your days like smiles performed and good deeds accomplished.
Proof that you’ve worked.
Proof that you’ve loved.
Proof that you exist within someone else’s reality other than your own.
Every year when I teach this poem, I too try to come up with a measurement of my life. Papers to be marked? Hugs to be given? Stories to be written?
Here’s a question to ponder if you’ve got a moment: How do you measure your life? What action or routine is your symbol? And once you’ve figured out what this is, are happy with with this revelation? I think what you discover will say a lot about how you percieve yourself at this moment in time.
And if you don’t like it? Go out and pick out a better measuring stick.
P.S And go and find yourself a copy of T.S Eliot’s “Love Song for J. Alfred Prufrock”!
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